Shakespeare once said: "God made him as a man so we will pass him
as one."
Very eloquent, but to many women,
simply being male gender does not
entitle you to become a card carrying member of The Manhood Club. There are specific qualities that women look for.
Let's look outside of sex first, when trying to put
up a definition of a man. Sex isn't everything and a relationship based totally
on sex is nothing special. A male that knows how to utilize his tool certainly does not make him a man.
You see, a sorry, selfish, irresponsible, lazy man could be the ultimate lover.
Sex should be the last component in the definition because those skills can be
developed by the couple. Working on it together can lead to an awesome
experience. In other words, sex does not make the man.
The question on the table is "what do women really want?"
The answer is a complete package.
What is in a complete package? For
those that are somewhat bewildered or confused, allow me to provide you with a
list of the qualities women look for in men:
After series of interview with some
women I was able to come up with these list.
Ambitious/Strong/Assertive
An ambitious man is a successful man
because he strives for the best, no matter what his goals are. Strength does
not necessitate muscles but inner strength. He is able to reach inside, draw
from that strength when it is needed and share it if the need arises. He goes
after what he wants without stepping on feet or toes but maneuvers around them.
Responsible
He knows his responsibilities and
owns up to them, whether it is family, work, and commitments. A man recognizes
that mistakes are a part of life. He admits to them, doesn't blame others or
make excuses for his inconsistencies. He learns from them and acts accordingly.
Understanding
Recognizes that no one is perfect,
including himself. Encourages communication efforts to resolve important
issues. Realizes the final say does not have to go one way (especially his way)
or another, but knows that a compromise is always a possibility.
In Tune to Himself
He has self-awareness spiritually
and mentally. He loves self, takes care of himself but is able to love others
as well. He can hold a decent conversation with anyone and he knows how to
express himself in any given conversation. He is respected by others and
recognizes that in order to get respect, you have to give it. He can accept
constructive criticism without taking it personally and recognizes that opinion
is individual and each is entitled to his or hers.
Compassion
He is unselfish and caring of others
around him. He is neither self-centered nor egotistical. He thinks of others,
and the feelings of others. Men are told from day one that men are not suppose
to cry because it is a display of weakness. Crying makes them human, and it has
nothing to do with strength. It has to do with feeling. The lack of fear in
showing true feelings constitutes strength and courage.
Relationships and Love
- He is caring giving, honest, loyal and respects the lady in his life
- He is willing to work things out together
- He respects his mate as his other half
- He knows that sharing is essential, good bad whatever
- The word commitment is not taken lightly and he doesn't make one unless he is sure that is what he wants to do. He will be the first to admit it.
- The woman in his life is there to support and encourage. He appreciates it and shows it
- He works with her, for her, towards common goals no matter what they are
“Women love compliments, doors
opened and chairs pulled out for us. A little pampering does a body good. For
example: a little shoulder massage after a tiring day at work is comforting”.
One of the women said
A real man recognizes that chivalry
is not dead. He is a gentleman. He does not take for granted he is loved. He
expresses it and let his woman know that he loves her as well. Love is
appreciated and not taken lightly. The work needed to maintain a relationship
is done willingly and cooperatively
Each woman's definition of a man
encompasses many different qualities, and each woman has at least a few of her
own standards. Certainly my list is not a listing of the only qualities of
manhood, but it is definitely a start. Some may feel it is unrealistic to
expect to have a man that is worthy of such admiration and respect, and
provides such devotion. I say that there is no perfection in anyone, but for
someone to be human, loving, loyal and supportive is very close.
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